Loving yourself is the best way to stay centered and grounded in the chaos that is the world today. Teaching my girls to love themselves will help them avoid partners who don’t treat them in a manner that lines up with how they treat themselves. It also gives them a voice to check me when I’m doing something that they don’t like. This has actually happened and while it was a humbling experience, I also felt very proud that I’ve made and shaped a person who is brave enough to speak their truth, always. My goal is to have my girls live with integrity and purpose, no matter what form that takes.
The littlest one is three and she is the most expressive of what she likes and doesn’t like feelings be damned. I remember when my older girls had strong feelings and expressed their desires if we were at home or in the middle of a grocery store. I suppose we all start off with a strong sense of self that is whittled away by society and customs as we grow older. If I can get back even a sliver of that carefree simple joy, I will consider my life a success.
So now, I savor my coffee in the morning, take a moment to notice the beauty of the nature around me, thank my skin as I put on lotion after my shower, and sleep on my satin pillowcase. I am relearning the things that give me pleasure and honoring myself and my choices the best way that I can.